For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. - Psalm 139:13-14


Memorial Day, Indeed.

We really didn't plan it this way, but Memorial Day Weekend became quite literal for us this year.

With Cohen hanging out at G & G Westfall's house, Ben and I finally worked up the courage to pick out a monument for Carter's grave. We (and by that, I mean mostly me) had been dragging our feet to take care of this "last official business" of laying our son to rest. Of course, I think the real letting-go process will take a lifetime.

However, with our coffee in hand, we went into a local monument shop and walked out an hour later confident we made good decisions on behalf of our son and God. We picked out a stone that wasn't too big (why get a big stone for such a tiny boy?) and included his name, date of birth/death, two tiny footprints, and a verse that we feel encapsulated God's hand on Carter's short life: "Your works are wonderful..." (Psalm 139:14).

Yes, it surely was Memorial Day at the Westfall house.

But I have to say that I now feel good that we did it. And while it may be "just a stone," we feel the monument will not only be something we can return to and remember Carter, but also a symbol of the weight Carter's life had in this world and the next.


  1. Proud of you two for taking this difficult step. Thankful for Carter's life and his ongoing influence.

  2. I totally agree with Jaena.. couldn't have said it better.

  3. Thanks for talking yesterday. I appreciated your words very much.
    You guys picked out a great verse representing such a great little boy!