tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6893737969767978190.post1660687836980783251..comments2014-12-16T15:11:34.968-05:00Comments on Little Feet...Big Footprints: What Helps?Ben Westfallhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11927996438145191371noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6893737969767978190.post-18781517770308798752011-09-09T23:04:16.380-04:002011-09-09T23:04:16.380-04:00When we lost a child, the one thing that comforted...When we lost a child, the one thing that comforted me (and still does) more than anything else is my assurance that my baby is happy. He is in the arms of Jesus. As parents, we are always sacrificing for our children, and for me, it was a big lesson in sacrificing my feelings for his. I want him to be here, but it is better for him to be where he is. I hope that makes sense. <br /><br />I also found great comfort in the story of Hannah, giving up her very wanted child, Samuel, to God's service. It was so hard for me, but knowing that Hannah had been through it too, in a slightly different way, was somehow helpful to me. <br /><br />I have never met you, but have followed your story thru the CWC MOPS group and prayed for your family many times. Your faith is an inspiration and a testament to what a great God we serve. May He heal your hurts and bless you and your family in every way!Megan D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02137859137829328639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6893737969767978190.post-15324637566554729082011-08-02T13:24:28.573-04:002011-08-02T13:24:28.573-04:00This is a great post--- I really appreciate it, as...This is a great post--- I really appreciate it, as I have never had someone close to me (or even someone I knew personally) pass away. I know it is bound to happen soon. I felt privileged to attend Carter's funeral, but it was so hard for me to sit through, I sat and wept and couldn't talk to anyone afterwards. Thank you for sharing.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10019357431599385523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6893737969767978190.post-51926789694495152192011-07-28T16:20:18.863-04:002011-07-28T16:20:18.863-04:00Thank you for posting this, Sarah. It is so helpf...Thank you for posting this, Sarah. It is so helpful for others to hear first hand what is helpful when a parent is grieving. We all mean well, but don't always have the right words or know quite how to act to be helpful. I am surrounded by grieving parents in the NICU on a weekly basis and it is at times extremely difficult. It is so hard to know what to say to a mom when they are saying goodbye to their baby or even just seeing their baby in the nicu for the first time or seeing their baby get an infection and need IV's and increased support. When I am in situations like those I pray the entire time...pray that I will not speak unless I need to speak and that the words I say will be encouraging and helpful and not make these moments harder for an already hurting parent. I would love to hear your thoughts on things that the hospital staff did or didn't do or say while you were there that helped or didn't help. This would be extremely helpful to me in knowing how to further help parents that are going through similar circumstances. <br />I am so incredibly proud to call you my sister in Christ, Sarah. You are so beautiful on the inside and out and have handled yourself in the most difficult circumstances in an extremely graceful way. I haven't stopped thinking about little Carter and everything his life meant and will continue to mean. Thank you again for being so open with all of us and helping us to understand and know better how to help comfort others in need!Nicole Reichardnoreply@blogger.com